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How do you survive the crushing grief?

Not just the grief of infidelity.

The crushing grief of having forgiven, only to discover it never stopped.

Of having lived honestly, wholeheartedly, with love and integrity while building a family, believing you were walking through life together.

Of having faced life’s biggest challenges… difficult childbirth, raising a child with special needs, watching a parent battle cancer and come back from near death, working hard, sacrificing, loving, trusting… only to discover that through all of it your partner was a serial cheater.

The grief of realizing the life you believed you were living was never fully real.

The grief of having your heart broken, your trust shattered, and your faith in people fundamentally shaken.

The grief of wondering if you will ever know what it feels like to be held, loved, and completely safe with another human being. To trust someone without fear. To rest.

I feel like I’ve lost more than my marriage. I’ve lost my sense of meaning, of safety, of what was real.

For those who have lived through this kind of devastation… how did you survive the crushing grief? How did you find meaning again when it felt like everything you believed in had been taken from you?

Ah yes!

It checks out almost word by word let’s say 80-90% is if not identical, very similar. Even the events.

You need surrender sister.
And it’s not in a defeatist way, it’s in a victorious state of surrender.

Means make peace with the understanding that you can’t control the integrity of a person you love or loved.

Even if they are good deep inside.
Even if they have potential.

You can’t help someone who can’t even truly love themselves.

They need to make that step, it’s an easy one, but for a twisted and broken ego it’s a titanic battle to just take that first step ( for it will ultimately kill that ego and the ego does not want to die).

Surrender to a fight that you can’t even start, not because you’re incapable of winning, you likely are, but because it doesn’t belong to your world. It’s their inner world and they allow no one in, not even their true self. It’s the kingdom of ego and it doesn’t even exist, just a sick fantasy, a mirage of drugged dreams.

Surrender that and embrace you. You will find inner love and that will heal it all.
And the glow you get will be something that other see and even your wayward will feel awe for.

Not that it matters, you will need no validation anymore whatsoever.

And that’s what peace looks like