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Rough morning, so I’m going to list off the things I use to affirm my divorce decision.

When I am divorced, I won’t have to-

-listen as he inhales while he’s eating food, which creates a really weird throat choking slurping sound.

- nag him to groom his nose hair, which was actually pretty gross

- decide to have sex when I don’t want to, and try to relax myself into it not being painful

- I won’t feel guilt about not having sex with him anymore

- I won’t have to soothe another adult anymore about something his own lack of insight created

- my house will stay as clean or dirty as I left it, or at least my bedroom will.

- no more guilt. No mroe trying to teach an unteachable grown Adult

- no more parenting an adult.

- no more waiting to find out he had affairs with more people than I know (there were three but he also solicited men and said it never went anywhere. Yeah.

- be embarrassed when someone would notice he was holding his penis at all times, because it soothed him like a little boy, and I would try to distract him by holding his hand. Cringe.

Where the fuck was I?!?!?

Oh and now I can hire a housekeeper if I want. He would get angry whenever I talked about that. I make all the money, he was a stay at home dad and he took it as some horrible personal insult. As he did everything. Frankly I prolly won’t need to anymore.

[This message edited by 3yrsout at 4:18 PM, Saturday, September 27th]

I no longer tip-toe around an explosive man-child.
I can make weekend plans with friends and no one makes me feel guilty for it.
I no longer buy bananas and make sure we have plenty in the house even though they rarely got eaten.
I can wear perfume or hair spray without his whining about the scents even though he wore Old Spice and layered that on like a 15year old with Axe body spray.
I can do whatever I need to be satisfied in the bedroom with out it hurting his feelings. (And now with anyone I want :-) )
I no longer hear him slurping soup or cereal because he said that is the "proper way" to eat those foods. (His mother was a cotillion-going-southern-girl and had impeccable manners. No idea where he got this from.)

It gets better 3yrsout. There are things I do miss about being married and in a partnership. But when you see what healthy looks like, you will start to see that you can do better than what you have as an M right now.

Keep your list going.